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Arch: agadhi barobar aahe tujhe mhananna. Khara ter aai-wadlanchech kaay pun aashya sarva mandalinche jyanna ethee job nahi aathava dusre kuthalehi kaam nahi aashya sarva jananna ethee rahun ekte paana, ekalkonde paana yeto. Arthat tee sarva mandali tadjod karaat astaat apalya saathi pun apalya paiki aase farach thode aastil je tyanchya saathi tadjod kartat. Majhya mate aapan tyanna ethee kahi kaam/library (marathi) kinva aase kahitari jyaat tyanche mann ramel, vel jaail aase karu shaklo tar tyanna nakkich apalya barobar ethe rahnyaas awadel...nahi kaa?
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Arch...nuktaach me "Dattak" cinema pahila..tyat Mule US madhe aani aai-wadil India madhe rahat asale ki AAi-wadilaanchi kashi aabaal hote te khup chan picturize kele aahe..! a must see for anyone staying away from parents..!
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Yogi tu ghondhaLa karat aahes.. arch che mhanane aahe ki indiat aapale aai vadil ekate asatat aani aapan ithun tyanchi dekh bhal kashi karun shakato aani tu mhanato aahes je loka ithe aahet uda. bayko ( tuzy nahi :) ) tyanna job nahi aani ashyansathi kay karata yeil..
khara mhanaje mala hi arch chya vishayavar bolayche hote.. mi aamchya gharachech udhaharan sangato... aamchya ghari aai vadilanna sagali swat:havhi kama swat:ha karaychi savay.. pahilyapasun ( bahutek janna asate indiat ) .. pan mi aatta jeva indiat gelo hoto tevha mala janavale ki aata tyanchyachyani kahi sadhi sadhi kama hi sahaj hot nahit.. kiva tyanna ti karayala tras hoto.. konachi tari madat lagate.. aani juni savay asalya mule tras zala tari te ti kama swat:hach karatat .. ni mag tyanna tras hoto.. udaharanartha gas aanane, kirana aanane, light bill / phone bill bharane jithe ranget ubhe rahave lagate vagaire vagaire.. tar mag mi aadhi mazya gharanchyanchi mentality badalavali.. ki thode paise gele tari aapalya chalatil pan tabiyetila sambhaLayche.. tras hovu dyacha nahi.. paise he aapalya sathich asatat.. aanimag aalu aahu hi kama, bangalya bhovatichi bag saf karun ghene aashi varchi var kama mol devun karun ghyachi savay lagali tyanna aani aata tyanna hi comfert milate..mental ani physical aaram milato.. aani nukasan kahich nahi..shevati aapan paise tyanchya sathich tar malavato.. nahi tar tyanna aapali garaj asate.. pan te aapalya janavu det nahit kiva sangat nahit.. aani aapan job mule ikade asalya mule tikade rahu shakat nahi..
tar aajun konala kahi suchana asalyas jarur sanga..
ARCH far chantopic ughadala aahe.. admin kadun navat neet dususti karun ghe..
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sandeep nusata picture baghun kahi hot nahi re.. aapan parat javun shakat nahi lagech ( jat nahi ) aani kahi tari kele tar pahije.. khara mhanaje far ghahan prashana aahe..
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Samir: tujhe vichar vachtana ek kalpana suchli....
Jaar ekhadhi aashi sanstha nirmaan keli jyaache mul kaam hey aashya lokanna help karne aahe jyanchi mule paradeshat aahet aani aai-waadil khup vrudha aahet kinva kahi karnastaav kahi jeevanaavashyak kaame karu shakat nahit. Arthat hyaa saunsthecha bhaar haa tyaa families chyaa mulanni uchlaava aani aashya prakare the ppl who r employed for such jobs are ones who r students so they can do this work in spare time......
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are indiat hi aaj kal ase barech agents aahet, mi aata gelo hoto tevha notice kele.. je ashi kama karun detat .. agadi mafak darat.. pan garaj aahe.. palakanna te mahit karun denyachi aani tyancha view badalanyachi..
main problem asato.. palak paise kharcha karun kama karun ghyala tayar nasatat..
mi aata gelo hoto tar mazya inlaws ni navin bangalow madhe shift kele.. tar ithalya sarkhe packers aani movers hota... tyanni sagale light/ phone transfer, saman transfer chi kame keli..
aani to mhanala aamchyakade sarva prakarchya kame keli jatat.. dalan anun denya pasun bhaji aanun denya paryant.. driver puravane vagaire vagaire..
aani he aurangabad la hota.. tar punya mumbai madhe tar nakkich asanar..
tu mhanato te khara aahe .. pan ashi sanstha kadhaychi mhanaje tyat employee mhanaje actual kam karanari loka tikadachi asanar.. ( mule mhana ) aani mage bolalya pramane pramanik panacha prashana yenar.. aani ji loka ithe kam karatil ti shakyato nokari nasanari thodakyat bekar asatil..aani mag landya labadiche chances jasta....aani ithe basun ti sanstha kon ughadanar aani kon sambhalnar.. ha aapalya sarkhe koni parat gelela asel tyane market chi garaj lakshat ghevun he suru kele tar tyacha hi vyavasay hoil aani garaju lokanchi kama hi...
aani aai vadil khup vruddha asatil tarach aase kahi nahi re.. maze parents itake old nahi aahet.. pan aapalyala vatata na tyanna aata ashya gostinsathi tras hovun naye jya paise devun karavun gheta yetil..
so best is to find some one locally at the moment.. who can do these things for you..
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ekdum chhan BB aahe ha.
Samir tu mhantos te agadi khare aahe. apalya aai-vadilanchya babtit khalil goshti pramukhyane adhalataat.
1. mula/mulikadun paise na ghene
2. Swat:chi kaame dusryala na sangne (mhanaje agadi paise kharch hot nasle ani dusra anandane karayala tayar asala tari)
3. barik sarik goshtit (aata garaj nastana) kaat-kasar karat rahane.
hyababtit mazya babanche udaharan denyasarkhe aahe. purvi mhanaje mazya lahanpani ekhadya goshtila kahi paryay asle tar tyatala sarvat swast paryay to apala ashi paristhiti hoti. mhanaje amachya aai-babanni amhala kadhich kami padu dile nahi pan te swat: ashya prakare sarv tad-jod kaatkasar karunach. udaharan dyayche zale tar ekhadya thikani Bus ne jayche ki rickshaw ne ase paryay asle tar humkhas bus ne jayche. maze baba tar anekda Mumbait firtana chalat jayache.
mukhya mhanaje apale aai-vadil badalalelya paristhiticha vichar karat nahit. aataa apana kitihi sangitle ki dagdag karu naka kuthehi jayche asel tari rickshaw nech jaat ja tari phonevar ho-ho kartil ani punha pryatyakshat vel ali ki Bus nech jatil :o)
hya goshti-la 2 baju aahet. India-t asal tar aplya aai-vadilanna apan sukhi theu shakto, tyanchyabarobar rahu shakto. hya goshtila dusara konatahi paryay nahi. dusri baju US chi. ithe subatta aahe ni thodya avadhit paise milavayachi kshamata aahe, ti Indiat rahun kadhich purn hou shakat nahi.
mhanunach hyatala madhyam-maarg nivadava, to mhanaje kahi varshe (2-4) US madhe rahun aplya gharaTyaat parat paratave ni apalya aai-vadilanchya RuNanchi thodya pramanat ka hoina bharpai karavi.
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tisara paryay tyanna ithe bolavane ni ithe sthhaik hone. pan ha paryay khup kami aai-vadil sweekartaat kinva sweekaralach tar to nailajastav karan yogi mhanato tyapramane ithe tyanche swatantr astitv rahat naahi, swabhav ekalkonda banato ni te anandi rahu shakat nahit.
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naahI tr maaJaI maula prdoXaat Aahot yaa jaaiNavaotca to KUp sauKI Aahot Asa maanaUna gaPp basaava.
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hya goshti-la 2 baju aahet. India-t asal tar aplya aai-vadilanna apan sukhi theu shakto, tyanchyabarobar rahu shakto. <<
keval mule javal rahat asli kich aaivadil sukhat rahatat ka re? ok door aslyachi khanta aste aaivadilanna pan javal rahanyane kay sagle problems sutatat ase nahi.
sadhya mazy mahitit khup ashi udaharane aahet, aaivadilanni mulache lagna zalyabarobar tyala vegle ghar bandhun diley kinwa tyane bandhley. mhanaje roj uthun sasu-soon kakat nako. door rahun godava aslela bara asa anek jan agdi aaivadil suddha vichar karatat. to kahi chook aahe ase nahi.
ya prashnavar ase ek tharavik sachyache uttar deta yene hech ashakya aahe. karan basically sukh mhanaje kay apekshanchi purti hone, mag tya kahihi astil. agdi mulaga doctor zala pahije pasun natuch hava ithaparyant. sagalyahc asha apeksha mulanna/mulinna purna karane shakya nasate ani karuhi nayet. baryachada aaivadilancha kay ghol hoto ki te tyanchay aaivadilanchay adnyet rahylele astat tyanchya aaivadilanchya apekshenusar vaglele astat tyamule tyanna vatate ki aapli mulehi tasech karatil, pan tyannich lahanpani htodyafar pramant aaplyala vyaktiswatantryche dhade dilele astat. tyamule mule swatachya swatabaddalachya apeksha purna karayala aahdi zatatat. yat swarthi pana kahiih nahiye karan kasehi vagle tari te kuthlyatari eka pakshachay swarthache aste, parents chya kinwa mulanchya. aso...
tar ya apeksha apan purna karu shakan mhanajech tyanna sukhi thevane nahi ka? kunacya apeksha kay astil ani konachi tya purya karayahci kiti capacity asel he khup vyaktinishtha aahe ase mala vatate. tyamule aaivadilanna sukhi thevane hahi mudda objective drushtikonatun baghata nahi yenar..
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Kiran tu mhanato te agadi barobar aahe.. sagala chya sagala manya.. aata mazya gharchyanna mi jara badalavala aahe.. udaharanartha.. mi ikade yaycha tharavalyavarach 2 varsha purvi mazya aai vadilanni VRS ghetali.. aani aata hi mi tyanna sangitale aahe.. maze paise vapara pan agadich te nasatil vaparayche tar tumche paise ( pension aani FD che vyaj vagaire ) sagale kharcha kara.. tyatun parat saving karat basu naka.. thode fira.. prekshaniya sthala bagha.. aani maja kara.. aani fortunately te tasa vagat aahet..
radha T tu mhanate te khara aahe.. pan tasa manala tari hi man khatach rahata..
ajjuka.. mala tuza mhanana patat nahi.. indiat parat jane kiva tyanchya javal rahane mhanaje eka gharatach rahane asa koN mhanato??.. tumhi eka shaharat jari rahilat tari tumhi weekend la aani garaj padel tasa sandhyakali ghari javun shakata.. kay hava nako baghu shakata aani lagel ti madat kame karu shakata.. ekatra rahane ha paryay nahich mandala koni..
aani tasa hi mhatala tari
jagaI sava- sauKI Asaa kÜNa Aaho ? tya pramane aapan aapalyala hoil tevadhe aai-vadilanna sukhi karaycha praytna karaycha.. aata sasu - suna he chalayachech.. mhanun ek mekanchi tonda na baghana ha kahi paryay nahi.. nahi ka?
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>ekatra rahane ha paryay nahich mandala koni..
People are confused with the wrong notion of personal freedom and independence.
ekatra rahane is the best of all possible alternatives.
(sasu and soon both should keep aside their repective nakharas for this, though.)
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I totally agree with Dharmadhikari..!!
And for me, mazya aai-vadilaana sukh dene mhanje tyanchya sobat rahun, tyaana kaay have nako te pahaane, tyanchya apkesha purna karane..!
he khara aahe ki aaivadil kunala aaushyabhar purat naahit, pan te punha hi milat naahit..:(
Paisa, prasiddhi hya goshti aaj aahet, udya naahit..! for me, i am damn sure, i will be living in US for 3-4 yrs & at the most till 30 yrs of my age & then back to India, with my parents..!! karan, tyaani kontya paristhitit aamhala mothe kele aahe, capacity nastaana tyanchee sukh-dukkha baajula thevun aamchya garaja purna kelya aahet hyachi mala jaaniv aahe..!!
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exactly.. kon parat janar aahe aani kon nahi hya vishayavar charcha nahi karaychi ithe.. kiva sasu sunanvar hi nahi..
the point is ithe rahun indiat rahanarya aai vadilanchi kalaji kashi ghyachi.. tyanna sukhi karay sathi aapan kay kay remotely karu shakato?
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sorry mag mi ithe lihayala nako hote...
pan dharmadhikari tumache vichar mala ajibat patat nahit. ekatra rahane is not best alternative.. may be for you.... ani sasu-sunechya madhale problems he tyanche nakhare nastat.. itka uthalapane vichar karane yogya nahi.
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ajjuka i agree.. dharmadhikarincha bolana mhanaje kinaryavar ubhe rahun pohayala shikavane asa aahe.. tyanna apalya peksha jasta experience aahe tari hi.. gharo ghari kay chalato te baghatoch aapan..
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svtahche te prshna ani dusaryache te nakhare ase pushkalanna vatate.
pan kahi nakharevale svathchya nakharyanna kuni nakhare mhanu naye mhanun sagalyach nakharyanna prashna mhanun udarpanacha ani pudharlepanacha aav aantat tyala kay karanar?
>gharo ghari kay chalato te baghatoch aapan..
2 rooms madhe anandane rahanare ektra kutumbehi apan pahato ani mothya bunglow madhehi nakhare karun vegale honare sasu soon apan pahato!
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adhi mala >>(sasu and soon both should keep aside their repective nakharas for this, though.) >> ya vakyache khandan karavese vatte. mulat ekatra rahna he independence, kinava sasu sunan madhe problem astat mhanoon avghad jata ha samajach chukicha ahe. he apla saglya gosthincha khapar tyanchya mathi zatkun mokla honyacha sopa marga ahe. ani nobody gives you the right to judge, what is nakhare, and what are true issues. tumhala gharatli bhandanancha analysis nahi magitla. I think, people are old enough (and hopefully mature enough) to resolve differences the way they feel best, and no outsider has any say in it.
Pun tarihi Dharmadhikari, ha vishay vegla ahe, let's not deviate from the topic. Ithe rahun tithe kalji kashi ghyavi he malahi aikaycha ahe, so someone please if you have some tips, please help us.
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Well, Ppl please keep this conversation healthy & to the point..& let us not make the personal arguments..!!
So, the topic is "how to look after & take good care of our parents in India when we are here in US". Pan ha prakar mala "untavarun shelya haaknyat la" waatato..!! Its true that, due to job , good money & quality of life, we are here !!
Aani, ithe raahun, aapan aaplya palaknna tya saglya gosthi devu shakato, jya "vikat" miltaat..!! but taking care is not just providing material comforts..for example, samja aaplya aai-wadilaanche aata way zale aahe...choti choti pan thodi katkatichi kinva thodya shramachi kaame tyanchya kadun aata hot nahit..so, in this case, aapan ghari kaame karaayla gadi/bai thevu shakto..samja te pramanik pane gharaatli aani aaplya paalkaanchi sagli kaama karun tyaacha trass aani bhar halka karil..pan aaple aaiwadil aajari padle astana aapan tithe astaana jee kaalji ghevu, jee seva karu, tashi he gadi/bai gheeil ka ??? shevti tee padle pagari nokar..! my point is paishaanee milnarya gosthi peksha , at their age what they want is to live with their kids...mula-baalan barobar hasun khelun kaadhlele diwas..!! pan ithe raahun aapan te devu shakto ka ??
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sandeep, no one is denying it's not the same. but the question is jevha apun parat jau tevha jau, pun atta amhi ithe astanna kaay karoo shakto?
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>So, the topic is "how to look after & take good care of our parents in India when we
>are here in US". Pan ha prakar mala "untavarun shelya haaknyat la" waatato..!!
mala hi sandeep che mhanane patale. tevha ithe rahanyarya lokani apalya aai-vadilavar jara jasti vishwas dakhavava ki tyanche te samrtha ahet ani apan tyanchya javal rahat nasunhi tyanche te sagle vyavastit baghun ghetil. jasa tumhi ithe rahanyacha nirnay thodafar "Its MY life" chya dhartivar ghetalay tasecha te hi tyanche mhatarpaN samarthpaNe peltil.
baki gosti "regularly phone karane/ paise pathavane/ varsha=don varshakathi bhetane " hya premapti hotatacha.
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aai vadil ajari padalyavar ameriketala nokari dhanda sodun Indiat tyanchi kalaji ghyayala janare lok asatil, tyani tya kalajitun thoda vel kadhun internet var yeun apalyala (US madhalya deshina) guide karave ase mala vatte.
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well, aaiwadilaana dyawayaachi sukhe aani tyanchi dekhbhal yaachi pratekachi wyakhya wegli asel..!
pan tyanchi dekhbhal karnya sathi aapan kahi gosthi karu shakto..! Aani hya saglech karat asatil..!
1. Money..making sure that whatever it takes for their comfortable livings, we make provision for that..!
2. Safety..makeing sure that they have secure & healthy life there, in our absense..!
3. Calling & talking with them frequently & finding out what & how are they doing..!! Aaplya mullanna aapli kaalji aahe ha faar motha dilaasa asto..!
4. Every once in while, arranging some sort of entertainment & fun for them to keep them happy !
e.g. some tours, outings, visits to relatives etc.
5. Looking after their health..e.g. if they have some illness, making sure that they do periodical chekups, take proper & right medicals etc. Arranging proper and known doctor for these things.
If u have some more things, do add in the list.!
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Dharmadhikari :- That's why we should not generalize any statement like what you did.. everywere situation is different and the solution as well.. if you are the main person in your family you should try to solve the problems between sasu and sun ( aai aani bayako ).. nusata tumacha tumhi sambhala.. patala tar patava n ahi tar mara hi bhumika changali nahi nahi ka?
Sandeep.. tu mhanato te barobar pan mhanun aapan jato ka nahi? tu jatos ka nahi? tu 3- 4 varshani janar te khare.. gelas tar baghu.. pan atta kay.. tya sathi ha sagala khatatop..
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Are Aai - Vadilanchi dekhabhal hya var bolane sampale.. konala kahi hi suchat nahi aajun?
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samir, ithe rahun aai-vadilanchi dekhbhal karane khupach kathin aahe, mala tari he ashakyach vatate. konala suchat aslyas liha.
tyapeksha, aai vadilanna adhik sukhi-samadhani kase thevave asa BB open kela pahije.
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Anil Avachat write in his book america that there is lot of people from dekkan gimkhana in US. Some doctor can take a year contract to visit them once a week. And tell the people in US. That way they don't feel worry about health at least. I think it is a very good idea. But I don't know if it is really there. If it is not people should do this.
I am from a small place so this is not available. This is sad because this is really good idea. But most people here are pune or other big city people. They can do this.
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mandali, chhanach charcha challey.. aani changle views baghayla milat aahet..
as someone rightly said pratyekacha anubhav vegala asto.. pan madhyam vargiya manasacha vicahr kela tar sadharan shikshan kinwa nokari sathi ji pidhi ikade yete tyanche aai vadil retirement chya aaspass astat..so nantarche jeevan farach ekaki... jar aai vadil tyanchya swatachya aayushyat gharapasun laamb rahile nastil aani tyani mulanahi laamb thevanyachi (hostel vagaire) vel yeun dili nasel.. tar matra ekdum kathin paristhti aahe (palakansathi aani mulansathisuddha..swanubhav) suruvatila mul US madhye aahe he sangayla bare vatte pan over the period navalai samapte.. mulga phone karat rahato US madhun aani tikade calenderchi pane ulatat rahatat aai vadil.. aaj yeil udya yei mhaNoon.. so paisa hi ekach goshta serve kahi dewoo shakat nahi.. (aani durdaiwane aaplya pidhicha (viseshatah US madhye aalelya) god gairsamaj zalela asto asa barechda) .. neat vihcar karata
1. US madhye mulanche bhartatil aai vadil aani
2. Vruddhhashramat rahanare senior citizens hya donhi ghatakanchya manasthitimadhye thode faar samya aahe.. nidan sahawas aani bhavanik aadhar hya drushitne tari..
so aai vadilanchi dekhabhal ha paishane sutanara prashna nasun sahavasanech sutanara prashna aahe ase mala tari vatte.. jari mulachya carrier madhye aai vadil kadhihi yenar nahit tarihi kuthe thambayche ha sarvasvi jyacha tyacha prashna!!
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Weldoda
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well said prashantupasani ..
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Neeta
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Mumbai ani Pune yethe "Greenline" navachi ek organization ahe. tyanchi membership ghetli tar te tumhala ek card detat, tyavar member chi health related sarv mahiti asate, ani te card dakhvun hospitals madhe deposit kami ghetale jate kinva waive hote. blood donors, emergency doctor referrals, emergency transportation to medical facilities ashya baryach goshti te lok kartat. tyanchya panel var barech doctors ahet, tyamule ekhadya health problem baddal pudhe kay step ghyavi yacha sall hi te detat.
I haven't tried this yet, since convincing parents and in-laws has been a herculean task :-), but I have the article, in case anyone is interested in more information. My father sends me Lokprabha regularly, and I got it from there.
- Neeta.
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Its good that quite a few Indians are discussing such issues about their parents life back in India. I agree its quite complex problem. Those who have gone for their higher education and got quite good jobs in USA, may feel that back in India they may not get equivalent challanging jobs and of course salaries! After some years, may be when these boys/girls become parents and reach 35-40 years of age, day to day problems of their own children to bringup in USA, difficulties if their kids are girls, then realisation may strongly come about whether to lead that life in USA or return back to India. This sort of conflict remains for the first generation US etrants, because their some childhood memories of India make them think about it!
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