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Nitesham Monday, January 02, 2006 - 5:45 pm:      All blog writers ! namskar. I read all the post.Happy to read all the thoughts of think tank of the society.I wish to add few words. I am of opinion dt there should be university of parenting where one course will be conducted @ how to become parent.The course should be of minimum one year to give enough time to think & learn what one should going to do.And the successful candidates only be allowed to produce child & others are not. The main theme behind this is dt everybody should think thousands of time before producing the child, what I am going to give this world,what quality I posses dt should be cultivated. Am I capable of giving & mentally prepared to give the child what he desrves. I love kids to such a extent dt I can't live without them. At age of 40 I like to be a child. Like to laugh as innocently as the child. But I always look inside me dt I can't give everything to my child.I am very ordinary in all sense economically,intellactually,physically & so on.I can't see a single thing dt should be cultivated.I thought on this subject so many years & decided not hv own child. But till today I couldn't find a person who is ready to support my thoughts.That is why living alone painfully.I am the victim of thinking good for society. No body want think in depth on this matter. I will adopt one child & I will try to give to the best of mine.But I will not hv my own.I hv seen this world very beautiful.I want to do very small thing for it. Thanks all of you. Correct me if I am wrong.

Bee Tuesday, January 03, 2006 - 2:43 am:      Nitesh, I read one of ur post on live-in relationship but I found this post not equal to that post. (from maturity point of view). Here u sound so pessimistic about life, u have so many inferiority complex in u. Remove the complex from ur mind that one has to be extra-ordinary in order to get married or have his/her own kids. (In fact its a work of very much ordinary people like us) Let me tell me one thing, adopting an orphan child is much difficult to raise than ur own child. Here I am not opposing for adopting child, in fact I appreciate that. But I think, one should adopt child in a case when your spouse/u has some fertility problem or he/she/u does not want to have ur own kids. But in ur case, you are having fear for marriage or ur capabilities. I think, all this will overcome if you could find out a nice life partner for urself. And believe me even late marrriages also works well nowadays. If u urself is not happy and having weaknesses in u, are u going to raise adopted kid happily? think more..

Nitesham Tuesday, January 03, 2006 - 10:58 pm:      Thanks for ur valueable comment. This is the thing that I expect from the blog writers. To corect the think line. No questions of capabilities or complexes. Everybody should go to such a depth & think.Peoples only think that I don't want resonsiblities. This is not the correct interpretation. I know female has a strong desire to hv her own child.This is her birth right also.But can any female think just like me and will be it normal to her ?

Bee Wednesday, January 04, 2006 - 2:13 am:      Ummmmm... its a good question. According to my opinion there are both male & female who after their marriages think to adopt child since they think so much for orphan/poor kids in this world that adopting one of them fulfill their need of having kid. The %age of such couple is very less at present but its satisfying to know that changes are taking place on human thinking level. In practical life, this idea might click first to either wife/husband and later he/she can convince to his/her life partner (w/o giving damn to -ve comments of their parents/relatives/society they live in). If u r talking about this decision on bachelor level, then at least I haven't seen such cases in my life so far. Somehow I am not able to calculate the difference between the male thinking line and female thinking line for this decision. I've seen many girls think like men do & vice versa. Y'day I read one Marathi story named "KalingaD" (by GD). In that, the wife says to husband, anyway I have to raise kids, whether its mine or others, does it matter? Then why not adopt one of the matured kid. And they really adopt one girl-daugther. The interesting part of this story is they do not want to adopt child of 1 or 2 yrs old since later in future when the child comes to know that that they are not her real parents, she might get hurt. So let the child knew from the beginning itself that we are not her real parents but we are still taking care of her like true once. The story is pretty nice. It has been written in 80'es. So its not a very brand new idea. But if one is very serious then I suggest that he should do some survay. He might need to contact "Anaath Mulaanche wasateegruh", meet authorities over there, listen their views, reality, experince since they are the one involved in taking care of orphan kids. He might get few addresses of parents who have adopted kids and they can tell their experiences. That will be quite good data-facts for you before he takes any step.

Kuldeep1312 Tuesday, December 26, 2006 - 7:27 am:      Hi All, Though ai haven't read all the above posts I would like to say that everone has to take some moral/social responsibility so that if u can adopt one child (& may be if can afford to have ur own then it's fine) So the gist is you should take your decisions according to the changing situations. Personally I dont want my own children (aata he konala vichitra vaatel pn tyla ilaz naahi)

Sas Tuesday, December 26, 2006 - 6:40 pm:      मला लग्ना आधिपासुन एक मुल द्त्तक घेण्याचि इच्छा आहे. आपल्या इथे लग्ना पुर्वि अस करण श्क्य नाही म्हणुन मी लग्ना नंतर मुल दत्तक घ्यायच अस ठरविलेल. पण इथे अमेरिकेत सध्या सेट्ल नसल्याने मुल हया विषयावर अजुन आम्हि गंभिर विचार केलेला नाही . पण आमचे हे मात्र त्याला द्त्तक मुल याला सहमत नाहित ते म्हणतात आपलच हव. मला माझ स्व:ताच मुल पण हवय पण एक मुल दत्तक घ्यायला काय हरकत आहे जर आर्थिक परिस्थिति चांगलि असेल तर?? आई होण्याचि नैसागिक शक्ति स्त्रित आहे. ह्या नैसर्गिक अनुभवाच समाधान मला हव आहे म्हणुन मला मुल हव आहे. आई होण हा जगताला सगळ्यात अदभुद अनुभव आसतो अस मी एकलय. माणुस जसा जसा वयाने वाढत जातो तस तस त्याचि निरगसता कमि होत जाते. घरात मुल असल की जिवनात निरागसता, निर्मळ पणा, व त्याचा आनंद दरवळत राहतो या साठि मला मुल हवय. पण आपल मुल आपल्या सारख रागिट झाल तर ह्या विचाराने मात्र मला वाटत नकोच हा चान्स घ्यायला उगाच आपले सारे निगेटिव्ह गुण मुलात आले तर त्याच सार जिवन कठिण होईल हे भय वाटत. मला माझ्या सारखा दुर्गुणी जिव नाअहि आणायचा जगात. समाजा साठि आपण काहि तरि केल पाहिजे मुख्यता अश्या चिमुकल्यां साठि ज्यांच कुणिच नाहि ह्या साठि मला मुल दत्तक घ्यायचय.