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| | Wednesday, May 12, 2004 - 4:45 pm: | 
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Aajacyaa yaugaat jaast pOsaa kmaavaNao hI ek klaa samajaNao yaÜgya zrola kayaÆ
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klaotUna pOsaa imaLt Asaola tr mhNata yao[la
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Gurudasb
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| | Wednesday, May 12, 2004 - 4:51 pm: |
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rajakIya pxaat gaolyaavar hI klaa lavakr Aa%masaat hÜtoÊ Asao mhNatat.
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klaonao dusaáyaa savaa-naa Aanand imaLtÜ.... Aata tumhI pOsao kmaavalyaavar dusaáyaalaa Aanand imaLtÜ
ka to tpasaa....
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Mona
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| | Tuesday, June 08, 2004 - 1:04 pm: |
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ek fact saaMgaavaasaa vaaTtÜ. maI Mga`jaIt ilahIto karNa I am more comfortable writing in English.
I know this girl from childhood, can't say we are friends, but just have been together in school, went to the same college so know each other. She is married w/kids, I am married w/kids so are now fully engrossed in "sansaar"...we both had an identical career path. Bright students, both did Engg, both came to US 8 - 9 yrs back, have highly qualified husbands, in short more or less parallel lives until abt 2/3 yrs back..
Her husband had joined a startup company(after getting laid off from a previous job) which went public. Guess what - he profitted a net of $3 million!!! At the time when he joined the company, that was the only job offer he got after abt 6 months of unemployment.
She doesn't work any more, they have a palatial house, a latest BMW 7 series, a full time hired help in the house, nanny for her kids and vacations for the last 2 years in Australia, Bangkok, Switzerland and Mauritius. What more can one want!!!!
Can someone tell me - kuzlaI klaa vaap$na ho pOsao kmavalaoÆ This is sheer luck, and yes I'm too jealous. Life is so unfair. There is no art in earning morning. Its you destiny and destiny alone which makes one roll in money and makes another struggle to earn a living!
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Mona
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| | Tuesday, June 08, 2004 - 1:21 pm: |
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Another example -
I work a full time job and have 2 small kids. Husband got laid off recently, tyamule sagalyaa gharaachaa bhaar ekdam maajhyaa khaandyaavar aalaa aahe. Tyaatun I am nursing my infant baby girl, which makes it extremely stressful for me, puming at work and all, cooking for my kids, cleaning the house and waking up 4 - 5 times at night to feed my baby. My husband has become very irritable and does not volunteer much help. His excuse is he is looking for jobs and also trying to set up his own business.
There's another Indian lady who works in my office. She has 2 kids too. Slightly older. I look at her and the only thought that comes to my mind is - Life is so unfair! Both she and her husband work in the same company. She joined at a salary of 48K 8 years back. She had 1 boy then. Today she is drawing 105K I know this because I am in the HR IT. I am an Engg, she is a BCom/MCA from India. I am getting abt 70K. Her husband is a earning abt 120K. He too is a techie. To top it all, she has had the flexibility of working from home in the afternoons for the last 5 years - started with an excuse of wanting to be home with her infant son!! Being in the same grp, I know there is hardly any work. So she practically is a full time emplyee working half days!!! Is this luck or what!! Who am I kidding!!! Its just so frustrating to see some people have it so so easy for them.
I have missed so many other details, like she bought a house for 200K 3 years back, in a community which flourished in the past 2 years. Now the market price of the same house is approx 470K!!!! Khuda detaa hai to chappar faad ke detaa hai - is so so true!
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Mona
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| | Tuesday, June 08, 2004 - 1:22 pm: |
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I guess I just wanted to vent out my frustration... Phew! I already feel a bit lighter
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Vatrat
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| | Tuesday, June 08, 2004 - 3:59 pm: |
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This is not frustration. This is jealousy.
Jealousy and not the money, is the root cause of all the unhappiness.
baurI najar vaalao tora mauh kalaa 
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pOsaa kmaavaNyaapoxaa pOsaa vaacavaNao hI ek klaa Aaho Asa malaa vaaTto
maÜnaa lighten up kahI idvasa Asao tr kahI idvasa tsao
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mona
Grass is always green on other side.
As per as earning is concern, i think your position is much better than people working in India. Some of them are having better education & experience than you. But they are having lower salary & lower standard of living than you. So do not compare with only bright stars, it will be more stressful to you.
By doing business you can earn more. There is also risk associated with that. Those who take the risk they can get money. Compare yourself with the people who did business & failed.
You have more stress (at work , at home). But that is part of life. As children grow older, you husband finds job things will become normal.
In short Dont worry be happy
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Bee
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| | Wednesday, June 09, 2004 - 8:16 am: |
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Mona, tu je kahee karate aahes, tyabaddal abhiman waTato aahe. bahutek prasangee striya khup saawarun ghetaat..
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Orchid
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| | Wednesday, June 09, 2004 - 9:17 am: |
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maÜnaaÊ
malaa Kai~ Aaho ik
baaL qaÜDo maÜzo ja,alao
ik tulaa qaÜDo baro vaaTu
laagaola.
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Orchid
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| | Wednesday, June 09, 2004 - 9:21 am: |
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jealousy hI 1 naOsaiga-k
gaÜXT AahoÊpna mana dusairkDo vaLva.maga baro
vaaTola
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Bee
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| | Wednesday, June 09, 2004 - 10:01 am: |
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Orchid, he khup sahaj nahi man waLawine.. tu kay kele asates man waLawaayalaa..
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Mona
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| | Wednesday, June 09, 2004 - 12:41 pm: |
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Vatrat : maI AaQaIca accept kolao hÜto - YES, I AM EXTREMELY JEALOUS! Wouldn't you be ??
saw\yaa malaa mana dusarIkDo vaLvaayalaa vaoLca kuzo imaLtÜ. Gar Jaalao kI office, office Jaalao kI Gar Asao maaJao tL\yaat maL\yaat caalaU Aaho . On top of that I get to see this co-worker every single f****** day and whenever I see her, the same thoughts cross my mind. jara ivarMgauLa mhnaUna Internet var yaavao tr %yaa dus`yaa maulaIcao emails yao}na pDlaolao Asatat of what she is upto this time... she sends me (and our group) pictures every other day or emails of where she had been what she shopped, and how she spent a day at the spa in BEVERLY HILLS!!!! yes BEVERLY HILLS! I tried not to acess my emails, but the more I stay away from it, the more I want to open them!!! What a vicious cycle.
Anyway, thanks people for your advice and opinions. I wish I could be the selfless person and seek happiness in other people's happiness and be satisfied etc in what I have.... wish it was that easy!
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Vatrat
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| | Wednesday, June 09, 2004 - 12:57 pm: |
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Are you also jealous of Bill Gates, Narayan Murthi, Tata, Birla, etc etc to name a few? Or you don't bother about them because they don't send you emails about their prosperity? There are millions of people better off than you. And there are millions more quite worse off than you. Think in perspective and Get some life, you would be happy!!!
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Mona
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| | Wednesday, June 09, 2004 - 1:41 pm: |
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Right on the mark Vatrat. The day Gates and Murthi start sending me personal emails abt their prosperity, you bet I will probably be jealous of them too coz that would mean, I am probably in *their* league!!!
I have written what I was feeling for a long time. I had nowhere else to throw up, so did it here. I can and am handling myself in the present situation as best as I can. After all, I do have to think abt my home and kids too. But thanks for your advice anyways. I'll try to remember it.
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Yog
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| | Wednesday, June 09, 2004 - 1:49 pm: |
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Mona, ur frustration sounds justified to me based on who u comparing it with and i guess ur venting it out has alraedy helped u a bit... yeah sometimes we donn get what we deserve..
But if taken in positive spirits this will provide you lot more motivation.. being ambitious is never bad but competition can be detrimental...(at least thats how i look at it)
pOsaa nasalaa trI maaNaUsa rDtÜÊ Asalaa trI kmaI Aaho mhNaUna rDtÜ... so really its just a state of mind...
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Nandya
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| | Wednesday, June 09, 2004 - 3:19 pm: |
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The race is long. And in the end, you are running against none but yourself.
Hope this helps.
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mona, congrats!
Jealousy is a natural thing, but very few people admit that they are jealous of somebody.
You dared to express it.
About the main topic: I feel earning money is an art. I think it needs foresight, ability to take risks ,confidence and above all brain and a bit of luck.
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Champak
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| | Wednesday, June 09, 2004 - 6:17 pm: |
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pOsaa Kuda tÜ nahIM magar Kuda ik ksama Kuda sao kma BaI nahIM.
tI saMtYroYz jaudova maharaja ema pI vaalao
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Arch
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| | Wednesday, June 09, 2004 - 6:24 pm: |
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ha ]pdoXa naahI. pNa maÜnaa (aba_la maaJa thinking ksa vaaT<a to baGa.
AjaUna dha vaYaa-MnaIÊ tuJaI personality, thinking iktI develop Jaala Asaola. tulaa svat : ca Asa sqaana Asaola. tuJyaa maO~INaIcyaa baabatIt tI kaya mhNaolaÆ maI [qao shopping kolao. [qao vacationing kola. (a spa laa gaolao. (at itca Asa kaya ktR-%va idsaNaarÆ kovaL navaáyaanao pOsaa kmaavalaa evaZca naÆ AavaDola
tulaa tuJa Aist%va AsaÆ
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Amitv
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| | Wednesday, June 09, 2004 - 6:28 pm: |
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exactly Nandya.. aayushyat itake variables aastat kii apali race hi swat: shich aaste...
swat: cha yasha/apayash tharavtana aaplyala kay karta aale aaste ni kay kela ha parameter aasayala hava .. dusaryanshi compare kela (je aaplyahun changlya kivaa wait paristhitit aahet) tar chukiche nishkarsha nighanyaachi shakyata jast aahe
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LOL champak!
nandya, well said!
mona, tujhyakaDe paN BMW aahe ki! Basic Madhye Wandha that is.. no offense meant, paN i think it's attitude problem. one won't go anywhere with such a loser attitude. spashT mat lihilyabaddal raag nasawa! attitude badalaNe kaThiN asale tari ashakya nahi!
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Uchki
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| | Wednesday, June 09, 2004 - 10:12 pm: |
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maaJyaa pÜisTMgacaI saM#yaa maÜnaajaIMcyaa pÜisTMgapoxaa jaast Aaho
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Deepblue
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| | Thursday, June 10, 2004 - 2:58 pm: |
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Today upon a bus, I saw a lovely girl, I envied her:
She seemed so happy. And I wish I were as fair.
And then, suddenly,she rose to leave, and I saw her hobble down the aisle,
She had one leg and wore a crutch,
But as she passed, a smile.
Oh God, forgive me when I whine, I have two legs,
I am blessed indeed. The world is mine!
I Am Blessed Indeed hI sauMdr kivata puNa- vacaNyaasaazI visit http://www.dobhran.com/greetings/GRinspire58.htm .
maÜnaaÊ pOXaanaoca sava- sauKM imaLtat Asao naahI.
jyaacyaakDo BaÝitk gaÜYTIMcaI caMgaL AsatoÊ %yaala savaa-t mah%vaacao sauK.. maanaisak XaaMtI imaLtoca
Asao naahI.
tumhI U.S. maQyao Aahat yaacaoca Kro tr tulaa samaaQaana vaaTavayaasa hvao. qao Baartat laaKÜ laÜk Asao Aahot jyaaMnaa
eka vaoLcyaa jaovaNaacaI maaramaarI Asato. If you can't have what you like, maybe you can like what you have.
jaIvanaacao saar mhNajao gaIta saar... %yaala ivasaÉna ksao caalaola.. ho puNa- vaaca.. baGa pTto ka...
-- Why do you worry? Whom and what do you fear? Who can kill you or harm you? The soul is never born... nor is it subject to death.
-- What has happened, has happened for some good (in the long run). What is happening is also for some good, and what will happen, will be also for your good. So, don't repent about the past, neither worry about the future. The present is here, so live it.
-- What have you lost that you grieve? What did you bring along that you lost? What did you that has been destroyed? You never brought anything along (materialistic things, emotions, etc). Whatever you gained, you gained it from here. Whatever you lost, you lost it here only. You don't take anything along at your death. Whatever you gained, you gained from God, and whatever you lost, you lost it to Him. You came empty handed, and you leave empty handed. What is yours today, will belong to someone else tomorrow and to another person at some other time. What you take as yours (the material things, emotions, relations, etc.) and feel so contended, those very things and the feeling of contention resulting from such thoughts, is the real cause of your sufferings.
-- Change is the essence of life. What you think as Death, is in fact a new beginning in itself, a new life. In one moment you may become a millionaire, the next moment you may become poor. Remove such extreme emotions and thoughts like.... yours & mine, big & small, ours & yours, etc.... then you will see that all belongs to you and you belong to all.
-- Neither this body is yours nor your soul belongs to this body. It is composed of Fire, Water, Air, Earth and Space and will dissolve into these at your death. But soul is eternal, then WHO ARE YOU? Surrender yourself to the God. This is the best refuge. He who knoweth this, is absolved of all fear, worries, sufferings, sorrow.
-- Whatever you do, just surrender your achievements or perceived failure to that lord. This way you will experience eternal bliss void of any EGO, desires and sorrows.
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